"If you could only see you.
If you could step outside of yourself,
you could really see you.
You could see the child in you.
You could see the infant in you.
You could see the pain in you.
You could see the hope in you.
You could see the potential in you.
You could believe in you.
You would be in awes of
the amazingly strong,
courageous miracle of an individual
that is you.
You would love you.
I hope you see you."
~Doe Zantamata
All of us have had challenging childhood experiences and have developed emotional wounds as a result. This varies in intensity for each of us. Throughout our lives we bring with us aspects of our past experiences that are stored away in different areas of our consciousness.Unresolved traumas from childhood are different for all of us depending on our individual perceptions, attitudes, support systems, outside influences, levels of consciousness and coping mechanisms.
If you had a dysfunctional upbringing like I did, how were you made to feel unloved or unsafe as a child?
Below are three types of childhood neglect you may have experienced:
When your parents and or guardians fail to embrace, nurture and listen to you during childhood you develop psychological neglect. With age, you likely developed these a variety of these symptoms:
~ You developed anger issues that are deeply rooted from your childhood trauma as well as an inability to love yourself.
~ You developed low self esteem from the abuse you received as a child like: being rejected, ignored, ridiculed, belittled, constantly punished, or high expectations that weren't attainable.
~ You developed physical or psychological illnesses.
~ You developed additions to unhealthy behaviors like: alcohol, drugs, food, codependency, shopping, gambling, working all the time, partying, etc to create a misguided sense of safety and comfort within your life.
~ You developed problems sustaining healthy, respectful, loving relationships with boundaries.
When your parents and or guardians failed to give to you protection, love, support and or guidance your emotional needs were neglected. They didn't pay attention to you and your needs or they required you to show them emotional expression in return. Because of this you likely:
~ You began ignoring your own emotional needs. Due to this, you learned to avoid, repress or hide your emotions as they were connected with your feelings of childhood neglect.
~ You developed physical or psychological illnesses correlated to your inability to express, deal, listen to and accept your emotions in healthy ways. This is also known as emotional repression. Commonly repressed emotions are guilt, shame, anger, grief, and sadness.
~ You developed low self esteem and self worth for yourself.
When your parents and or guardians fail to provide basic needs like: physical safety and nourishment your basic needs are lacking and you can develop the following issues:
~ You developed additions to unhealthy behaviors like: alcohol, drugs, food, violence, codependency, shopping, gambling, working all the time, partying, etc to create a misguided sense of safety and comfort within your life.
~ Psychological complexes like OCD that are safety seeking behaviors to keep you safe.
~ Low self worth resulting in physical abuse and or neglect like: eating disorders, obesity, self harm, unhealthy relationships with food, maintaining an unhealthy diet.
~ Risk taking behaviors like: unprotected sex, daredevil acts, illegal substance use, using violence, dangerous driving, illegal activities like trespassing or vandalism.
~ Sexual promiscuity and dysfunction which is often due to sexual abuse received as a child.
Without addressing these core wounds, we remain attached to them and they haunt us. They make us believe that they are accurate perceptions of reality, our lives, and ourselves. These experiences, if unresolved, will be our filter through how we see and experience our life, other people, how we think and how we feel. These wounds can often be deeply entrenched in our psyche and can be intensely traumatic depending on each unique situation. Without facing them head on, they block our ability to fulfill our greatest potential of our soul.
I want to note that blame and grudge holding won't get you anywhere. It's important to understand that people are victims of victims. What this means is that oftentimes the reason why our parents and or guardians behaved this way is they were neglected in their upbringing- as their parents experienced the same trauma and it goes on and on.
As children we rely on our parents for everything: love, safety, shelter, food, etc. If our basic needs aren't met those are major blocks and triggers that we encounter later on in life. My childhood wounds were my blocks. They prevented me from establishing normal relationships as I lived in fear. It wasn't until after my Spiritual Awakening that I realized both of my parents were narcissists and abusive towards me. When we are abused as children we don't stop loving our abusers we stop loving ourselves. When I found that love and self respect for myself I stopped loving my abusers and had a major reality check. I cut them both out of my life & I finally felt free!
To heal these wounds we need someone who can confidently, patiently and without judgment help us, step by step through the healing process. If you are in need of someone to talk with about these childhood wounds, I am available for online bookings by donation thru my Skype: fromanotherealm.
Going through a spiritual awakening?
During an awakening, it may be useful to have some professional guidance: someone who can confidently, patiently and without judgement help us, step by step through the healing process. If you are in need of someone to talk with about triggers, past trauma, childhood wounds or repressed emotions. I am available for online booking please contact me directly at: fromanotherealm@gmail.com
Face whatever is holding you back head on and it no longer has power over you, you have power over it! Awareness and anything can't co exist. Awareness is more powerful than your ego, your emotions, your thoughts and your feelings. Awareness is what gets you back home to your soul purpose.
You can use your pain and turn it into power. If you are willing to work on where your pain comes from, the lesson to be learned and turn your knowledge into action, you can use your suffering to turn you into a stronger and wiser person! I look forward to working with you on your spiritual journey.
Love & Light,
Namaste ~ Paulina
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